Post by ratna479 on May 18, 2024 8:26:22 GMT
To identify the differences between what we see (fact), observe (our impressions about the fact), feel and elaborate (thoughts). And then what is “important” to us (our needs) and what we do based on all this (our strategies). That said, here I want to share the impressions we have when faced with a fact, what types of thoughts arise, as well as the differences between judgment and analysis. About thoughts/judgments the way we face a fact/situation directly influences our feelings and how we understand whether or not our needs are being met. I'm going to bring a practical example that can happen in a work environment and I'm going to divide it into two parts in order to bring clarity to different sides of the same situation.
Part 1 I was hired by a company and there are 10 days left before my trial period ends. In the morning, I arrive at work and my leader already calls me to go to his office. The girl who works next to me was also hired the same week as me. And, upon seeing her, he said to her “so-and-so, after talking to ana, I'll want to talk to you”. Note that the two items above describe the facts, in a pure, simple, clear and indisputable way. Part 2 2.1- I am insecure. I really need this job, but I'm not sure I can perform within its expectations. In fact, these expectations are not clear to me.
So I think/judge as follows: “ah, he doesn’t look good today. He must have come to the conclusion that I am no good. You regret giving me a chance. In fact, I think he only gave it because I insisted a lot, I said at the beginning of the interview how much I dreamed of this opportunity and that I would dedicate myself to the job as much as possible. He's going to fire me. And that!" look at the “negative/uncomfortable” judgment in these thoughts of mine. I don't believe my needs will be met. 2.2- fulana was happy with the leader’s “call”. Since she was hired, she seeks to exchange ideas with him every week for a few minutes, explaining her results and also her doubts.